Why Some Women Experience Sexual Performance Anxiety
By adminJanuary 10, 2021
A common misconception exists that only men experience sexual anxiety. Women also undergo sexual performance anxiety. Unlike men whose main concern is to experience multiple and prolonged orgasm, women are worried whether they will achieve an orgasm.
The problem with performance anxiety among women is the patriarchal culture associated with sexuality. Women will not admit there are other women out there going through the same. What causes sexual performance anxiety varies from person to person. The causes could be lack of confidence, low self-esteem, disability, and chronic pain.
And since in comparison to men, women do not orgasm easily there is always a bigger likelihood of undergoing performance anxiety. A survey reports that men are more confident with their performance than women during sex. A man’s only concern is his ability to maintain an erection throughout a specified amount of time, which is acceptable socially.
But for women, some could be worried about how they look naked. Sarah, who came to us with this issue, for instance, said how scared she became when a partner asked whether she was going to cum or not. This situation made her even more anxious and prevented her ability to orgasm.
An important step is learning about the intricacies of sex. This will help ease the pressure for a woman and her partner. Both need to understand what and how sex should be. For example, social structures glorify penetrative sex yet we both know foreplay is the most pleasurable part of sex. To understand sex and performance anxiety among women, we, therefore, should understand what takes place within a woman’s body when experiencing anxiety.
Stress and Fear ( Hormonal Imbalance)
During sex, a woman who will experience performance anxiety will cause the body to launch a hormonal response. These hormones associated with both fear and anxiety are norepinephrine and epinephrine. Both are stress hormones and will launch your body into hiding from a threat or facing it. In this case, the threat at hand is the fear of not pleasing the partner sexually. For women suffering from mental health problems such as sexual trauma, the threat could be the woman’s fear of physical intimacy. These stress hormones eventually take hold of one’s ability to get wet enough during intercourse and tenses up their vaginal muscles. And as a result, makes penetration impossible. At this point, the woman may lose their desire to even have sex.
Social constructions about sex might also cause performance anxiety among women. For instance, a woman who grew up around a community that considers sex as a sin. These negative light against sexual activity might hinder one’s ability to separate shameful activity and pleasure. In the long run, they may start struggling with sexuality, and how to engage in sex positively. Such women may develop low confidence, stress, and finally anxiety while having sex.
Certain health conditions cause physical pain during sexual activity. Illnesses such as uterine prolapse, pelvic inflammatory disease, and pelvic floor dysfunction are dangerous causes of sexual performance anxiety. While a woman might still heal from these conditions, the likelihood of fear of pain during sex is highly possible.